How to Emotionally Handle a Move

by c21commonweath_ldowling 30. January 2019 12:56

Selling your beloved home can be an emotional process. Sometimes, moves are motivated by big life changes and make saying bye to family memories and neighborhood friends more difficult than you originally anticipated. We’re here to say we fully understand – and we hope to make the process a bit easier by offering advice on what to expect and how to mentally prepare yourself during the selling process.

It’s All About Buyer Behavior

When selling your home, you’re ultimately appealing to the buyer, and it’s important to remember to not take normal parts of the selling process personally. This means accepting realistic offers, preparing properly for a sale, engaging with prospective buyers, and negotiating.

For starters, you’ll want to decide on a realistic price point to avoid prolonging the process. While your home may have more value to you in the form of memories, you still need to decide on a realistic price point based on your home's measurable attributes. Understand, too, that not everyone will appreciate everything about your home that you did in years past. By pricing your home appropriately, you’re more likely to appeal to buyers who agree with the attached price tag.

It’s also a good idea to give yourself extra time to prep and gather your belongings before welcoming prospective buyers into your home for a tour.  This way you can reflect on what feels necessary in the space and remove personal items that may cause unexpected emotional responses.  By making your home feel less personal during the selling process, you allow prospective buyers to envision a life in your home – the ultimate goal of an open house.

Engaging with prospective buyers helps with this process. Instead of being offended when you hear potential buyers discuss plans to change certain parts of your house, appreciate and accept their vision for a new home. While you may be moving under difficult circumstances, the reality is that individuals, couples, families, and groups of friends all have their own unique needs. Accepting this reality may make the process easier for you – and you can be happy knowing new residents will love their new home just as much as you did.

Lastly, expect delays. Deals fall through and people change their minds. This is a normal part of the process, so it’s important to expect the unexpected. It could take weeks or months for a deal to close, so sit tight and take comfort in knowing this is just a part of the process.

Here’s How to Deal

Knowing what to expect while selling a home helps homeowners safeguard themselves from unwanted emotional breakdowns. By harnessing an awareness of your emotions during the process, you can better accept them for what they are – and move on. For advice on how to best mentally prepare yourself while selling your home, continue reading below.

Accept your feelings

Sometimes, the best way to maintain peace of mind is to accept your feelings. Understand difficulties may arise, and this is a normal part of the process. Buyers back out and inspections may go awry, but by processing your feelings, you’ll better equip yourself to approach problems carefully and thoughtfully.

Try to think logically

It’s likely you have an idea of whom you want to move into your home, but don’t allow yourself to get stuck in your own dreamworld. Try to be logical about sealing the deal, making an offer to a buyer who’s willing to pay the most money and not who merely fits an image of your ideal homeowner.

Understand things take time

Practicing patience is key. Sometimes, transactions take two to three times as long as you thought they would due to issues arising from appraisals or mortgage lenders. Be prepared to sit tight as everything works itself out.

Look Towards the Future

Whether or not you’re moving under difficult circumstances, something new is ahead of you – and it will be great with a little work and a positive attitude. Take comfort in knowing that someone else is bound to enjoy your home just as much as you once did, too. By knowing what to expect during the selling process and thoughtfully dealing with your emotional responses, you'll proactively take charge of the situation. You’ll thank yourself when your sale is easy and drama-free.